These are tough times for all, jobs, money, kids, elderly parents ETC. My wife wears it all on her shoulders all the time. Unless everything in life is PERECT, she doesn’t feel at all like romance or sex.
Nothing is ever going to be perfect, but it really sucks when a whole segment of our life together is gone.
Any ideas?? I feel held hostage and will only be released when the kids are grown and gone and when I hit the lottery so money will no longer be a thought.
Help!
Vacations and nice dinners are wonderful and it sounds like your wife deserves them. Also, a massage when the kids are in bed would probably also help her relax.
When it comes to having sex with your wife, do you just go straight for intercourse? As soon as the kids are away and she is finished sorting through unpaid bills do you try to get her in the sack? I am not bashing you for being horny. You are human and humans have sexual needs. But people, especially women, are rarely ever able to immediately switch from the daily grind mind set to the hanky panky mind set.
What I’m getting at is - flirt with her, make her feel special. Foreplay begins long before oral sex or anything else in that arena. Romantic dinners and roses are great, but let her know you think she is the one that gets you hot. Appreciate what she does for you, the household and the family but also let her know that she deserves a little pleasure too. Even if she is wearing every day clothes, if you like the way her rear end looks, tell her. If she smiles or laughs at something you say or anyone says, tell her how beautiful she looks. Check her out like you did when you were dating. Try to remember the things that used to make her blush before you two were in a serious committed relationship and the stress of everyday life set in.
These are just suggestions. You know your wife, so comment on the things you genuinely love or find especially attractive about her. This may put her in the mood for a little more romance and fun.
You should take her away and give her a break. However, during those in between times remind her that she is special and that even when things are far from perfect, she still deserves some sexual release.
http://sextoysforladies.com/2009/12/10/sex-does-a-body-good/
http://sextoysforladies.com/2009/12/28/ill-tell-you-why-you-should-masturbate/
January 22nd, 2010 at 2:24 am
vacation
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January 22nd, 2010 at 2:40 am
get her a BF maybe she’s into sex and romance just not into you
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January 22nd, 2010 at 3:06 am
weekend in a hotel room with a jacuzzi and a few bottles of good wine. have fun
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January 22nd, 2010 at 3:17 am
Take her away! Have everything planned and taken care of so she doesn’t worry. Make it a surprise unless she hates surprises and in that case just come out and let her know that you’re needing this from her!
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January 22nd, 2010 at 3:31 am
With all that on her shoulders send her to day spa give her some time to relax by herself. Then send the kids off if possible before she gets home and have a nice dinner waiting and some wine (if she likes it) make sure you clean up after and that her favorite robe and slippers are waiting for her. Then snuggle her and see where things go. She’s obviously stressed and needs some relax time.
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January 22nd, 2010 at 3:43 am
try and get some Free time alone with her even a days out somewhere court her over again you don’t need Pounds ,
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January 22nd, 2010 at 4:33 am
Your wife is doing Irrational Belief Number 3: "The idea that it is horrible when things are not the way we like them to be". She is disturbing herself by applying perfectionism to her life. She is telling herself that she cannot be happy unless everything is (her idea of) perfect.
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http://www.stressgroup.com/12IrrationalBeliefs.html
January 22nd, 2010 at 5:05 am
maybe you should help more with the kids so she is relaxed when she gets home and dont forget to be romantic…just cuz you’re married you still need to act like you are into her….or are you just trying to get some from your wife
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January 22nd, 2010 at 5:55 am
Vacations and nice dinners are wonderful and it sounds like your wife deserves them. Also, a massage when the kids are in bed would probably also help her relax.
When it comes to having sex with your wife, do you just go straight for intercourse? As soon as the kids are away and she is finished sorting through unpaid bills do you try to get her in the sack? I am not bashing you for being horny. You are human and humans have sexual needs. But people, especially women, are rarely ever able to immediately switch from the daily grind mind set to the hanky panky mind set.
What I’m getting at is - flirt with her, make her feel special. Foreplay begins long before oral sex or anything else in that arena. Romantic dinners and roses are great, but let her know you think she is the one that gets you hot. Appreciate what she does for you, the household and the family but also let her know that she deserves a little pleasure too. Even if she is wearing every day clothes, if you like the way her rear end looks, tell her. If she smiles or laughs at something you say or anyone says, tell her how beautiful she looks. Check her out like you did when you were dating. Try to remember the things that used to make her blush before you two were in a serious committed relationship and the stress of everyday life set in.
These are just suggestions. You know your wife, so comment on the things you genuinely love or find especially attractive about her. This may put her in the mood for a little more romance and fun.
You should take her away and give her a break. However, during those in between times remind her that she is special and that even when things are far from perfect, she still deserves some sexual release.
http://sextoysforladies.com/2009/12/10/sex-does-a-body-good/
http://sextoysforladies.com/2009/12/28/ill-tell-you-why-you-should-masturbate/
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